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veganweedsoup:

lesbian is not a bad word, it is not oppressive or offensive and maybe if the word irks you as a queer person you need to ponder why you’re so offended by a sexuality or political stance or identity that intentionally eliminates and dismisses men and their desires

(Source: clittyslickers)

not queer as in radical, but lesbian as in fuck you (abridged)

southernish:

yilduza:

Almost as an experiment, I began calling myself a lesbian instead of a queer.  In the decade since I began dating my first girlfriend, I could count the number of times I had used that word as a self-descriptor on my fingers.  Lesbian felt foreign and ugly in my mouth; the aftertaste is still something I am getting used to.  Almost immediately, I was subject to queer community backlash.  I was told that I am “an essentialist,” “slut-shaming,” and “reinforcing the gender binary,” amongst other things.  It was suddenly expected that I justify my attraction to women by deconstructing why “woman” meant every time I referenced my sexuality.  I did not expect this substitution to stir up such a reaction in either myself or in others; after all, wasn’t lesbian versus queer a mere matter of semantics?

My definition of a lesbian is of a person who identifies as a woman and is primarily attracted to other people who identify as women.  Lesbian is not mutually exclusive to queer, however queer is often presented as a rejection of lesbianism…Meanwhile, lesbians are often categorically dismissed by queer people as being “homonormative,” privileged, and sometimes even oppressive.  Lesbians are supposedly the ladies who insist that LOGO’s sitcoms and the L Word will eventually shatter the glass ceiling…

Unfortunately, if and when lesbian present themselves as militant and politicize their identities, they are dismissed and chastized.  This becomes the ultimate catch 22.  A transgressive lesbian is rarely taken seriously or at face value.  Instead, she is preemptively either laughed off or dismissed as being a passe, yucky, anti-sex, and male-castrating “second-waver”.

Unfortunately, many queer spaces operate upon a simplified notion of sex positivity in which sexual exploration is linked with progressiveness. In some queer spaces, there is a pressure to avoid stating that you only want to sleep with women; this makes you appear frigid or close-minded.This is because in a liberal supposedly “sex-positive” individualist framework, women’s sense of agency and empowerment is often still configured in terms of men’s access to women’s bodies.

I’ve come to the unsettling realization that identifying as queer over lesbian has been, for me, a way of paying lip service to men…I began dating women years ago and spent most of my adolescent years trying to articulate my sexuality in such a way that I would not be read as a lesbian…I was ashamed to use the L word because that meant admitting I would probably never be in a committed hetero relationship in the future.  I did not know what to call myself, so I stopped saying anything and briefly went back in the closet... Lesbians…were the “masculine,” unkempt, socially awkward inept girls; they represented a failed femininity which I wanted to believe was incongruent with my personality.  Even after I graduated with a Women’s Studies degree, I still did not want to associate myself with those people.

I have never been very invested in the idea of queer as a reclaimed slur because I have never been called queer in a derogatory manner…Lesbian, however, had consistently been applied against me from all corners as a term of disempowerment.

Reclaiming the word lesbian has become a method of militantly defining my sexuality on my own terms.  I have begun consciously using the word to directly challenge the idea in queer circles which tells us that women who only want to get with other women cannot be critical, mindful, or progressive.  I say it out loud because the knee-jerk, paternalistic reactions on the part of other gender and sexual minorities, as well as my own internalized disgust which is only now coming to the surface, is so very telling.  Lesbian does not have to mean any of those nasty things I was conditioned to believe it does.

Not ‘Queer’ as in ‘Radical,’ but ‘Lesbian’ as in ‘Fuck You’, anti-copyright, february 2012, rachelzines@gmail.com

(i searched & found the zine on etsy, so i’m linking that as a source.  the author is ineffableshe on tumblr. this is an abridged version.  if you want the full version, please support the creator!  )

i think i got this zine at a freecycle, maybe? either way i read it on the bus yesterday and wow this speaks to me so much.

non-lesbians, please read this and hear this.

Reblogging cause Rachel is awesome and you should indeed support her work. However, that link above is broken. You can buy the zine in question here along with awesome back issues of Hoax Zine.

(Source: liketherainshesaid)

blinuetchristina:

boyqueen:

iamarevolutionary2:

Put A Rainbow on it!

PUT A RAINBOW ON IT is a playful way to reference and reflect on some of the (mis)uses of the rainbow pride flag. The video aims to illuminate and connect a few common contradictions in claims made about safe space - from schools, to neighborhoods, to nations. Made by community educators through a participatory process, PUT A RAINBOW ON IT hopes to deepen dialogue on the question: “what is a queer issue?” Share the video and learn more at www.putarainbowonit.com #putarainbowonit

love ittttt

Greg, you would love this.

This. This is possibly the literal best.

samelurchingplace:

xthedreamhomesofinsomniacsx:

Lauren Zuniga - Confessions of an Uneducated Queer 

 

This articulates feelings I’ve had for years.

ouf

I cried, and watched it again.

TAL9000: Celebrate Portland's Own Cop-Fighting Anti-Capitalist Lesbian Doctor

pinkar15:

I hate it when mainstream gay rights organizations whitewash, minimize or otherwise erase the “shocking” aspects of our oftentimes radical political past.

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For example, a popular internet historical timeline of notable gay individuals and events in Oregon says this about Marie Equi:

1907
Lesbian physician Marie Equi and Harriet Speckart, who had been living together notoriously, win second-prize for their float in the first Rose Festival.

1911
Openly Lesbian physician Marie Equi presents a paper to the Multnomah County Medical Society regarding her treatment of a male patient who had gonorrhea of the throat.

1915
Openly Lesbian Portland physician and social activist Marie Equi adopts a girl in Oregon.

1918
Lesbian physician and social activist Marie Equi is convicted in Portland of sedition for opposing U.S. involvement in the First World War. During her trial, the prosecutor refers to her as a “degenerate.”

From these admittedly truncated reports we get very little feel for who she was and what her life was actually like. The term “social activist” can mean just about anything, and comes off as sounding particularly tame if you ask me.

The truth of the matter is that Marie became famous early on in the The Dalles, Oregon by publicly beating a delinquent boss with a horse-whip: he had neglected to pay her “female companion” $100.

Marie would go on to become a prominent and able physician, offering abortions at a time when this procedure was hard to get and frequently dangerous.

When the predominantly immigrant women and men at the Oregon Packing Company fruit cannery went on strike in July 1913 she witnessed some particularly harsh police repression. In response to one pregnant striker being violently arrested while speaking from a soap-box, Marie made her way to the courthouse. She was determined to get in.


“Deputy Sheriff Downey tried to restrain the infuriated woman [Equi], She gave him a right arm swing in the jaw. Night Watchman Fifer, a meek little man, tried to remonstrate with Dr. Equi, but her ready fist caught him below the left eye… Gaining entrance, she persuaded the elevator man to take her up to the jail on the top floor, where she opened up her batteries of vituperation on Sheriff Word and his deputies. She raked them fore and aft… Mrs. O’Connor [the arrested woman] was not booked, but was allowed to depart from jail, escorted by Dr. Equi.” - The Oregonian 16 July 1913, p. 1, p. 3.

This event marked her break with the progressive party. “It was my experiences during that strike that made me a socialist…. Previous to that time I was a Progressive…. Any betterment of conditions must come about by direct action, in other words, militancy.” - New Bedford Evening Standard, 17 March 1914, p. 3.

Two days later, at a street meeting called in defiance of a prohibition on striking by the mayor, Equi was arrested; she stabbed the patrolman with a hatpin that the newspapers rumored was poisoned.

She would go on to become heavily associated with the anarcho-cyndicalist Industrial Workers of the World and was respected by many noted radicals. She was at various times identified as an anarchist and socialist (these terms were to some degree interchangeable at the time) and proudly wore the title given to her by her detractors: “Queen of the Bolsheviks”, perhaps with a bit of irony.

According to Elizabeth Gurley Flynn (who she lived with 10 years), Equi gained her reputation “as the stormy petrel of the Northwest” and was “among the most feared and hated women in the Northwest because of her outspoken criticisms of politicians, industrialists and so-called civic leaders, and all who oppressed the poor.” Her dedication to these various causes also had the secondary effect of helping to legitimize homosexuality, and lesbianism in particular, amongst working-class radicals who in that time and place often held some pretty backwards ideas on the issues of gender and sexual orientation (not that a lot of them don’t still).

Now I by no means want to paint Marie Equi as something she was not. She was not perfect, she took plenty of positions and actions worth criticizing. For example, in order to oppose Republican pro-war president candidate Charles Evans Hughes (popular amongst rich white women for being pro-suffrage) she fell in with the pro-Wilson crowd as a “lesser evil.” Later, she got the weird idea that she should try to become a top leader in the Communist Party, USA (didn’t work out), and she probably ended up making and having a lot more money than she liked to admit.

Even so, her life was a fiery and complex one that deserves more than a bland nod to her having been in the Rose Parade, or to her having been “anti-war”. Those things are true, but need to be situated properly within the overall context of her life.


(I reposted this because I feel like she isn’t getting the respect she deserves)


[other quotes stolen from http://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/nancy-krieger-queen-of-the-bolsheviks]

The most well-funded organizations in the gay and lesbian movement do not provide direct legal services to low-income people, but instead focus their resources on high-profile impact litigation cases and policy efforts. Most of these efforts have traditionally focused on concerns central to the lives of nonpoor lesbian and gay people and have ignored the most pressing issues in the lives of poor people, people of color, and transgender people.

The “gay agenda” has been about passing our apartments to each other when we die, not about increasing affordable housing or opposing illegal eviction. It has been about getting our partnerships recognized so our partners can share our private health benefits, not about defending Medicaid rights or demanding universal health care. It has been about getting our young sons into Boy Scouts, not about advocating for the countless/uncounted queer and trans youth struggling against a growing industry of youth incarceration. It has been about working to put more punishment power in the hands of an overtly racist criminal system with passage of hate crimes laws, not about opposing the mass incarceration of a generation of men of color, or fighting the abuse of queer and trans people in adult and juvenile justice settings.

- Dean Spade: Compliance is Gendered (via delisubthefemmecub)

Oct 1
leftish:

RELIGIOUS LEADER SHOOTS 4 YEAR OLD BOY TO DEATH BECAUSE HE MIGHT BE GAY
via The New Civil Rights Movement
A religious leader in North Carolina shot to death his four-​year old step son because he thought the boy, Jadon Higganbothan, might be gay. The man, Peter Lucas Moses, 27, who also shot to death a 28-​year old woman, may face the death penalty.
Moses, whom police stopped short of calling a cult leader, lived in a one-​room home with nine children and three women. The 28-​year old woman, Antoinetta Yvonne McKoy, Moses killed had been beaten and strangled with an extension cord before Moses murdered her. The day he did, she had escaped to a neighbor’s house and begged her to use her cell phone. The neighbor did not call police because she claims she thought the woman might be mentally disturbed. She witnesses Moses dragging her into the house, and still never called police.
More, via WRAL:
Moses beat her throughout most of the day, with the women joining in at least once, and tried to strangle her with an extension cord, according to the witness.
The witness described how McKoy begged for her life, but Sisk got the gun Moses used to kill Jadon and took it to the bathroom, prosecutors said. The women told Moses “you cannot let her go” and said they feared him going to jail, Cline said.
They turned on the same music in the bathroom and took McKoy in there, prosecutors said. Sisk shot McKoy several times, killing her, they said.
The group threw a party a few days later, prosecutors recalled the witness saying, and Moses showed McKoy’s body to several relatives, including his mother Sheilda Evelyn Harris, 56, his brother P. Leonard Moses, 21, and his sister, Sheila Falisha Moses, 20.
McKoy’s body was also kept in the house for some time, taped up inside black garbage bags placed in garbage bin, prosecutors said the witness told them.
A few salient facts:
Religious extremism is at the heart of this sad story. The children were home schooled. Neighbors ignored them. This took place in North Carolina, the current subject of a social agenda campaign against the LGBT community. A same-​sex marriage equality ban may be on the 2012 ballot.
Good thing they have their priorities in order.
“In the religious belief of that organization, homosexuality was frowned on,” Cline [the DA] said. Huh? That better not be allowed in court.
“Investigators think some of those involved in the deaths were members of a religious sect known as the Black Hebrews, which believes it descends directly from the ancient tribes of Israel,” the Republic stated.
[NOTE* from Leftish: There are no words to describe my supreme sadness at the state of our society. We’ve gone wrong, so wrong…]

leftish:

RELIGIOUS LEADER SHOOTS 4 YEAR OLD BOY TO DEATH BECAUSE HE MIGHT BE GAY

via The New Civil Rights Movement

A religious leader in North Carolina shot to death his four-​year old step son because he thought the boy, Jadon Higganbothan, might be gay. The man, Peter Lucas Moses, 27, who also shot to death a 28-​year old woman, may face the death penalty.

Moses, whom police stopped short of calling a cult leader, lived in a one-​room home with nine children and three women. The 28-​year old woman, Antoinetta Yvonne McKoy, Moses killed had been beaten and strangled with an extension cord before Moses murdered her. The day he did, she had escaped to a neighbor’s house and begged her to use her cell phone. The neighbor did not call police because she claims she thought the woman might be mentally disturbed. She witnesses Moses dragging her into the house, and still never called police.

More, via WRAL:

Moses beat her throughout most of the day, with the women joining in at least once, and tried to strangle her with an extension cord, according to the witness.

The witness described how McKoy begged for her life, but Sisk got the gun Moses used to kill Jadon and took it to the bathroom, prosecutors said. The women told Moses “you cannot let her go” and said they feared him going to jail, Cline said.

They turned on the same music in the bathroom and took McKoy in there, prosecutors said. Sisk shot McKoy several times, killing her, they said.

The group threw a party a few days later, prosecutors recalled the witness saying, and Moses showed McKoy’s body to several relatives, including his mother Sheilda Evelyn Harris, 56, his brother P. Leonard Moses, 21, and his sister, Sheila Falisha Moses, 20.

McKoy’s body was also kept in the house for some time, taped up inside black garbage bags placed in garbage bin, prosecutors said the witness told them.

A few salient facts:

Religious extremism is at the heart of this sad story. The children were home schooled. Neighbors ignored them. This took place in North Carolina, the current subject of a social agenda campaign against the LGBT community. A same-​sex marriage equality ban may be on the 2012 ballot.

Good thing they have their priorities in order.

In the religious belief of that organization, homosexuality was frowned on,” Cline [the DA] said. Huh? That better not be allowed in court.

Investigators think some of those involved in the deaths were members of a religious sect known as the Black Hebrews, which believes it descends directly from the ancient tribes of Israel,” the Republic stated.

[NOTE* from Leftish: There are no words to describe my supreme sadness at the state of our society. We’ve gone wrong, so wrong…]